It doesn't quite seem fair. Some people are so articulate and so gifted with words while other people struggle just to get one sentimental word out. This is only a slight problem with relationships pre-marriage. It's a problem that shows up on the occasional family speech (announcing your engagement, for example) and it shows up when you're trying to write out cards. More or less, the fact that you might not be able to speak your mind (and heart) as well as you wish you could to your lover is never as highlighted as it is on your wedding day.
On your wedding day, however, you're really put on the spot. Not only do you have to figure out a way to summarize your love and devotion for your partner in your vows, but you also have to read these thoughts and feeling out loud to your family, friends, and a bunch of people that might as well be perfect strangers to you. It can, clearly, be kind of intense.
If you're one of those people who knows how you feel but isn't all that great at putting it into words, your wedding vow process is probably scaring you. Here are some tips to make your wedding vows meaningful and sincere:
1. Ask yourself some things. Why did you fall in love with your partner? What does marriage and devotion mean to you? How did you dream of your wedding day when you were little?
2. Connect your intro and outro. Connecting the themes in your beginning and end phrases will help to give your vows a concise binding and your audience will remember it, too.
3. Say what you mean. Sincerity in writing is more important than everything else. You can write out your vows precisely how you have been told you should write them out as per tradition and they could easily mean nothing because they lack honesty. Even if your voice quivers, even if you tear up...say what you mean and say it with passion.
Your lover is going to appreciate your vows no matter what. Don't let the idea of vows ruin your wedding for you. Just speak from your heart.
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